Why you should remain single till you find the right person
Nowadays people are so used to being dependent on external influence to feel validated, meanwhile the greatest source of validation anyone can rely on is the one from within or your creator
Being in a relationship shouldn’t be a way of running from one’s own shadow. Many people are so scared of being by themselves. They seek for relevance from others and once they are unable to find that, sometimes they end up in depression. They forget that they came into the world alone and so their strength which should come from internal sources is now transferred to the external, making it hard for them staying alone.
Being alone isn’t a curse, instead it’s a blessing if used the right way, but some may choose not to look at it correctly due to society pressure. Some may feel they are not good enough because the actual person they want doesn’t want them back. Forgetting that God created everyone unique in their own ways. Living by society standard in most cases can put a person in an uncomfortable state and still let them live in endurance when there is another option for them to live better instead
being single consists of several benefits which I would like to mention
- Peace of mind: Peace of mind is underrated but very much valuable as luxury. Anyone who has never experienced trauma would feel they are on a wrong side of life especially when silence outweighs the noise but the truth is that many of those who seem be happy being among the noise are the loneliest within, they have people around but still feel alone. They stay in a toxic relationship due to the impression of people also the fear of being alone.
- Self discovery: When a person stays alone for some period of time they are able to discover some hidden things about themselves, could be their talents, gifts or capabilities. They grow to realize their strengths and weaknesses because their attention isn’t divided
- resilience: a person who has learnt to master themselves by being alone have more patience with themselves, they dont easily get manipulated due to the strength they’ve garnered through solitude, they are more confident even in relationships and nothing else makes a person more attractive than how they feel about themselves.
- Building Discipline: in a relationship there are things that feels impossible to resist which can be learnt and practiced by being single, one of them is discipline. Discipline is understanding how to tame one’s self desire and remaining in control. This is a strength that the world might not teach but it’s a very great way of living because most of the things that happens to be dangerous to us but disguised to look goo can only be resisted through discipline
- increased chances In chasing your dreams: One of the benefit of staying single is the opportunity to be able to go for one’s life goal. It’s Possible that In the course of exploring those goals that one can be connected to their life partner. Better than being under pressure to settle for a connection that doesn’t align with a person’s vision.
